Why sex positive spaces are healing and you should check them out
We spent some weeks offline in a sex positive event called “Konk” that took place on the well-known Spitzmühle hotel, 1.5 hours away from Berlin.
There were ancient trees, a lake, a sauna, a fire place, a workshop space, a 24/7 play room, delicious food and 50 humans willing to reconnect with other humans.
We went there as facilitators to teach 3 workshops but more importantly as humans participating on an experience of deep self-knowledge and nourishment for the body, mind and soul.
Our relationships with others create a mirror that reflects images of ourselves back to us and affects our paradigms. Our actions and attitudes reflect on us, and how they affect others. We are part of that social mirror, and how we react to others affects how they see themselves.
In spaces like that, those mirrors shine a more amplified light because those relationships are intensified by s.xual energy (or the lack of it).
Patterns and beliefs are intensified and more clear than usual, so we have the chance to look at them. Some unconscious shadows are illuminated. Consequently, realizations about our own lives and how Life itself works might fall from the sky, in the form of Divine downloads. Moreover, our boundaries will be tested over and over again. And again. Clear communication becomes a must to navigate the space with grace. Accepting rejections without taking them personally and, interestingly, expressing own boundaries becomes an art.
In spaces like that, there are as many realities and realizations as beings attending. Because it is me, Beatriz, writing this piece, I will tell you how it was for me.
My personal goal was to stay truthful to myself. It might sound simple but it is not. It requires a certain level of mastery of all the things mentioned above.
As I mature as a facilitator, as a womxn and as a participant of those spaces I approach them with curiosity but I also have a clearer understanding of what type of energy opens me up, what type of communication I want to have in place, how I want to be treated, what kind of experiences suits my body in different situations and what kind of depth I want on my encounters.
With a background of peak experiences collector. I felt really proud to realize something in me is changing towards being mmore calm and centered. A couple of times I found myself with FOMO and wanted to have more. More pleasure, more pain, more attention, more scenes…
Being true to myself has been a process of:
- Taking in consideration that I am an introvert that was not in contact with so many people since months.
- Taking things really slow.
- Respecting the balance of my nervous system.
- Accepting the end without physical contact, honoring the present reality, refraining from touching or being touched, acknowledges the situation gracefully.
- Engage authentically, grounded in the present, rather than merely participating, ensuring actions stem from genuine self-awareness and mindfulness.
- Finding myself making plans of getting a deep flogging session and break them an hour later because the desire was not present anymore and I just wanted soft touch.
- Expressing to other beings that their level of empathy, communication and care was not up to my standards and explaining what it did to me and stating my desires.
- Saying a lot of “NOs”.
There is so much understanding, growth and healing happening in sex positive spaces. First time I entered one a few years ago, I realized all that potential and decided I want to offer this to people as my contribution to a global rise of consciousness. This was way before Ariane and created BliXX.
Years after, I continue learning and getting value from sex positive spaces and the idea of contributing so much to someone else awakening, still sets my being on fire.
Your next chance to meet yourself in such a deep level of vulnerability is during our BliXX Retreat.
Love and kinky blessings,
Ariane and Beatriz
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