Baby, let’s talk about the juice of conscious kink: awareness of needs, desires, fears, boundaries, Conscious kink, effective communication, and consent.
Space Rooted
Before we end up in a scene, we have to create a safe space rooted in prior negotiation and open communication. In that setting, we can really show up in our vulnerability and allow emotions to take over; we can learn about ourselves, integrate it, and become more whole.
Trust Ourselves
To really dive deep into surrender, we need to trust the giver and, as equally important, we need to trust ourselves. We must know our noes and yeses, and trust we will honour and express them in the process, so we feel safe enough in our own bodies.
Trust demands the setting of a container in which we feel safe enough to be able to totally let go of control. The safest container possible is created when we have awareness and a high degree of self-knowledge. Knowing what arouses me, what grounds me, the words I like to hear and those I don’t, what triggers me out of surrender and important boundaries to effectively communicate during the negotiation phase. That way, we can reach consent before going ahead with any interaction.
Boundaries can shift during the experience; they can stretch or shrink; it is useful to negotiate a way to open up a conversation during the scene if needed.
Love and kinky blessings,
Ariane and Beatriz
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