TURNED ON BY AUTHENTICITY

I lie on my bed, my play partner starts to touch me. Soft caresses over my nipples. I don’t have very sensitive nipples and unfortunately don’t feel much. However, I observe him fully indulging and enjoying the sensual play.

I feel scared to speak up and ask for a harder touch or bites. I am afraid of scaring him away. I am scared to give him the feeling of not being good enough. I am scared to be rejected for my very desire or even be seen as awkward for those. I aim to please and allow it to continue…

Can you relate to feeling scared of rejecting the other person, afraid to ask for what you want, or uncertain about what you want, which is why you allow things to happen to you?

Hearing this may surprise you, but this is a true story from PriestessA.

We both have struggled to ask for what we want, sometimes because we didn’t truly know our desires, and other times because we feared our partner’s reaction.

What the work with conscious sexuality has taught us:

• KNOW YOUR DESIRES: We explored the full spectrum of conscious sexuality, to better understand ourselves and gain more self-knowledge around what we want. However, there is always space for exploring more. But today we can say that we basically know what we want.
  
• IDENTIFY YOUR BOUNDARIES: In this process of self-understanding we also discovered what we don’t want. Many beings lack boundaries, due to little self-exploration and knowledge or due to aiming to please. Today we know how far we want to go with whom and we are confident in identifying our boundaries.
  
• EXPRESS YOURSELF: The journey doesn’t end with knowing desires and boundaries. It is also about expressing those with grace and ease. We have learned tools on how to communicate and ask for what we want, and also how to express our boundaries, while staying true to ourselves and respecting the other person.

In our BliXX xperiences we create a space where it is safe enough to explore our desires and boundaries and train how to become more authentic in our engagements.

This not only affects our intimate encounters but also reflects in all areas of our life. Setting boundaries with our colleagues, boss, partner(s), parents, and children is a real game changer in a society that conditions us to function and achieve.

Thank you for taking your time to read us.