The Merge of Tantra and BDSM – How Do They Compliment Each Other…?

Aloha amazing one,

In our last email we talked about conscious kink.

As conscious kink is covering everything to explore our sexuality outside of the normative the two erotic arts of consciousness NeoTantra and BDSM are equally involved in conscious kink.

In BliXX we merge both disciplines to dive deeper into our self-sexploration and include the light as well as the darkness.

The question is… What do soft interactions like synchronised heart to heart breathing and Gods & Goddesses in white robes with feathers and glitter have in common with impact players leather kinksters spanking themselves in dark dungeons? 

More about the merge of Tantra and Kink in our Youtube video

From a stylistic viewpoint, NeoTantra and BDSM are apparently very different, even opposites. Further, the language both worlds are using differ extensively. The sexual practices of both collectives; tantrikas chasing softness, pleasure, expansion and energetic worship, seem to rest on the other side of the spectrum of the humiliation, restriction or pain desired by BDSM practitioners….

But like almost everything else in life, outward appearances and collective pre-conceptions have little or nothing to do with the real true essence of things. Once we went deep into both, we understood that NeoTantra and BDSM have much more in common than what is visible at a first glance.

“NeoTantra and BDSM are both erotic arts of consciousness. Furthermore, both work with energy polarity. Additionally, both are about self-knowledge. Both are practices outside the sexual normative (kink practices). Both are ritualistic. And many ‘both s’ more.

We will outline five important meeting areas, thus our most crucial elements of conscious kink (or kinky tantra) of NeoTantra and BDSM.

1. Presence

One of the qualities of utmost importance that someone must bring in order to practice of Tantra and BDSM properly is presence. When we focus our attention on the present moment, everything we do or not do becomes conscious. In this conscious giving and receiving both arts meet.

This can take very different forms. For example, in tantra, being present would be not to focus too on reaching a goal, for instance an orgasm. In BDSM, it is essential that the Dom is fully present for the Sub to fully surrender.

2. Polarity

In Tantra we have the polarity between the masculine/yang/doer/leading and the feminine/yin/receiver/following principle. In BDSM we call that energies top and bottom or the Dom and the Sub.

Here an outline of erotic polarity:

“The more we polarize among each other and one partner plays the masculine and the other plays the feminine, (independent from gender as we all can and shall embody both principles), the higher the erotic friction is resulting from this exchange. Consequently, this dynamic intensifies the passion between partners, fostering deeper connections and mutual understanding.

A BDSM session usually is a customized and negotiated play, where usually one is active and doing and the other is passive and surrenders. Each of them is embodying a role, that is consensually agreed beforehand and resides out of the individual sexual desires and kinks. A Tantra ritual has usually a predefined structure and involves a giving and receiving part as well with predefined roles.

3. Expanding consciousness

Both arts are intended to produce shifts in consciousness and provide us with transcendental and transformational experiences. In Tantra the state of ultimate bliss is called Ananda. In BDSM this state is known as the subspace.

Two ways to reach ecstasy and to enjoy our human embodiment in all its forms.

4. Freedom

“Tantra accepts us in our totality. Moreover, it is based upon authenticity as a means to liberate the self from false conditionings, misbeliefs, or limiting patterns. Additionally, Tantra teaches us to be ourselves and welcomes all that we are as sacred and divine. Healing and freedom to be comes from this acceptance.

BDSM offers tools to explore and experiment deeply with ourselves.

When done right and consciously, the Dom is not someone who hurts or torture, it is more a guide or a shaman to the Sub, who consciously, consensually and in freedom decide to open him/her/themselves to the journey.

5. Consensual

Tantra and BDSM are both arts where consent plays a crucial role. A good tantric yoni massage practitioner, will always explain the session beforehand and would ask for consent before even touch. Also, verbal consent should be asked and renew during the session as it progresses deeper. BDSM we play with edges; therefore, it is essential to know the other person’s boundaries and find consent how far you can go.

In BliXX we merge the BDSM Dungeon with its floggers, whips, leather utilities, chains and other kinky necessities with the Tantric Temple and its ritualistic, divine qualities. All consensual, free, mindful, enlightening play of polarities is welcome and celebrated in our Sacred Dungeons.

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“Awake body,

tranquillise mind,

spirit guides.

Eternal pleasure,

hard and kind,

full body orgasm resides.”

BliXX, 2022