Jeremy Bentham, 1789
Conscious Kink is a perfect tool to play with & explore these masters.
Pleasure & pain trigger similar neural pathways and the same hormones are released such as endorphins, adrenaline and anandamide. Thus pain can add to pleasure & pleasure can reduce pain.
You might ask yourself how beings can get pleasure from pain besides the release of those feel good hormones. Here are some further reasons:
-Brings you in the body immediately
-Calms the mind
-Reduces fear of pain outside of bed situation
-Increases your resilience also in out-of-bed situations
-Induces another state of consciousness
-induce emotions for you to observe
We differentiate between;
1. Rewarding pain – Good Pain
Usually, it comes from building up slowly, allowing the body time to release endorphins. If the session is skilfully given, the bottom is working with the breath and willing to surrender.
Everybody who is open to it could enjoy receiving this type of pain.
2. Edge pain – Challenging Pain
The top finds the pain’s edge of the bottom. The goal is usually to satisfy the top`s sadist tendencies and inflict domination.
“If the bottom endures the pain and perceives it as non-rewarding pain, however, we are not talking about masochism. Bottoms who consensually agree to this dynamics usually take pleasure from allowing the top to take from them, while offering their submission to their dominants.
When we play with pain in a conscious kink context the following is important:
For the giver:
- Be present with your bottom
- Slowly increase intensity
- Check in regularly
For the receiver:
- Know your zones: Comfort zone, Growth zone, Trauma zone: you want to operate in growth zone
- Speak up your boundaries
- Express your emotions through sound and movement
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